Dear Heartbroken,
First of all, I want you to know how proud I am of
you for standing firm in your values. It takes real courage to set boundaries
and stick to them, especially in a world where it can feel like you’re swimming
against the current. While being dumped for such a reason is undoubtedly
painful, it’s also a blessing in disguise—it’s a way of weeding out people who
don’t truly value or respect you.
It’s important to remember that your worth is not
tied to whether you agree to sleep with someone. A meaningful relationship is
about so much more than physical intimacy. It’s about trust, respect, and a
genuine emotional connection. The right person will see that and will honor the
pace and values you bring into a relationship. They won’t make you feel like
you’re asking for too much; instead, they’ll celebrate who you are and what you
stand for.
I know it can be hard not to feel like you’re the
problem when this keeps happening, but you are not. The problem lies with the
boys who aren’t mature enough to see past their own desires. These are not your
people. They are not the ones who will stand beside you through life’s
challenges or celebrate your victories. They’re just temporary distractions on
your journey to finding someone who truly deserves your love.
You might feel like all boys are the same right
now, but trust me, they’re not. There are people out there who will admire your
strength and respect your boundaries. It may take some time to find them, but
the wait will be worth it. When you meet someone who truly values you, it will
feel entirely different. You won’t have to explain yourself or defend your
decisions; they’ll understand and support you without hesitation.